Shyness: causes, effects and ways of overcoming it.

 SHYNESS: CAUSES, EFFECTS AND WAYS OF OVERCOMING IT.       
           Shyness is feeling uneasy around people in authority, elder ones, and persons of the opposite sex, strangers or even your peers. It is extreme self consciousness that at affects its victims in a variety of ways. Some get embarrassed, eyes downcast and heart pounding, they find themselves unable to speak. Others lose their composure and begin to chatter continuously. Yet others find it hard to speak up and voice their opinions.        
           Although they are positive aspects to having a measure of shyness. It is akin to modesty and humility, and one of the things God looks for and commends. Furthermore, a shy person is often valued as a good listener. But when shyness inhibits us from realizing our full potential and harmfully affects our relationship, work and feelings, then it is time to do something about it!
           Shyness does niot describe what you are, it describes your behavior, the pattern you have learnt and reinforced through experience with others. You think others are making negative judgments of you. You think things will go all wrong if you try relating with other people. You expect things to turn out badly and they often do because you are tensed up and act I harmony with your beliefs.  
          By withdrawing or not speaking up, you don’t pay attention to others being preoccupied with yourself; you may have the impression that you are unfriendly, bored or even uncaring. You let opportunities pass you by. You accept items or situations you really don’t need. All because you are afraid to speak up and express your opinion. You lose out on the joy of meeting people and making new friends or doing things that will enhance your life. But others lose out too because they never get to know the real you.
          With tie and effort, one can overcome shyness. To start with, stop worrying about whether the other person is evaluating you. Desist from assigning bad motives to other persons, not trusting them and thinking they are going to look down on you.       
         Secondly, try to think positively. No one is perfect; all of us have our strength and weakness. A difference in opinion does not mean a rejection of u as a person.  
         Thirdly, learn to be sociable, to say hello and if possible start a conversation. If you blunder in speech don’t feel condemned, if others laugh, learn to laugh with them. Always remember that does laughing also err in their speeches at times
          In addition, one can overcome shyness by wanting to change and believing that change is possible, rehearsing a situation beforehand, dressing tastefully, making sure your clothes are clean and well ironed, acting with confidence, heeding to advice from elderly ones, e.g. parents, teachers because they can’t possibly advice you wrongly.
          Conclusively, shyness is not an overall extreme in any case, try as much as possible to avoid being extremely shy. It doesn’t pay at all!        

Examination Ethics and Malpractice ethics

EXAMINATION ETHICS AND MALPRACTICE ETHICS

            Examination ethics are rules governing the conduct of examination. They are set rules/principles to ensure that an examination goes on in the right way.

These rules range from

 

• ·         Do not talk to any student/candidate while writing an examination for any reason.
• ·         Do not bring in any material into the examination hall except your writing materials ( pen, pencil, eraser, mathematical set without the leaflet, non-programmable calculator, ruler).
• ·         Do not write anything on any part of your body (micro-chip).
• ·         Do not have foreknowledge of the examination question paper.
• ·         Prepare for your examination before the date and get ready.
• ·         Do not expect your student teacher to assist you in the examination hall.

If these rules are strictly followed, examinations are well conducted and the results will show exactly how candidates performed and how much of the subjects they have mastered.

 

 MALPRACTICE

          Examination malpractices are those bad practices that are not in agreement with the examination rules and regulations. It is simply not going by examination ethics. These malpractices include getting help in any way. Candidates who copy from textbooks, notebooks, fellow candidates, papers thrown into the hall by relations, friends, teachers, parents or touts, engaged in examination malpractice.

          Students who engage in malpractice are usually lazy students who do not work hard, they spend the time meant for their studies on trivial issues and fail to study hard to be fully equipped with the knowledge of their subjects.

           Students who engaged in examination malpractice write their examination under tension. They are always afraid of supervisors and invigilators. Such students are harassed in the examination halls and do not have the composure (rest of mind) to write down even the little they may know, hence they fail their examination with “distinction” and get thoroughly frustrated.

           The few who succeed in getting people to write examinations for them or who copy and manage to pass are cheats. Their certificates are stolen certificates because they cannot defend it. Such cheats disappoint and disgrace their parents, relations, friends, institutions, themselves and the society at large because they will occupy positions in diverse endeavors and begin to corrupt the system they are in and give out under standardized products and services.

           Examination malpractice can ruin your career. You may succeed in having your way through while in school but it haunts you when you are in a larger society like in the industries and any field of endeavor, then what you are expected to know, you do not know and you see yourself going down the rail because you will be a failure. It could also be that you were caught in examination malpractice while in school and the case (judgment) was delayed till you graduated, my dear, you will be DE-robed; so do avoid examination malpractice of any sort and walk with your shoulders high wherever you find yourself. If you study hard, you will definitely succeed without examination malpractice.  God being with us as our helper. 

Unlocking the treasure in you

          Posterities are inner forces, innate resources and abilities that God has deposited in every person which can help one achieve his/her purpose on earth potentials were deposited man as response to problems that exist on earth.  
          Potentials make you unique, confident and can bring satisfaction to you. They are treasures found in every person. The setbacks and hindrance to the development of your potentials are doubts, fear, negative influences/association, ignorance negative attitude/characters, pride and abilities are never developed in a nesh. It may take sometime but pays off.
          There is a Chinese plant which when planted experience very reliable growth for over four years. Yet they still apply fertilizer and water till the fifth year. In the fifth year the plant that has not shown signs of development within five weeks grows ninety feet in height. And it is very useful for economic and health purposes One thing about discovering and developing your potentials are maximized, your suffering in life is minimized.

All women are donkeys

          During an argument, a husband and his wife “women are donkeys, all women are donkeys!” the next day, as there were travelling along the highway a donkey passed right in front of their car. The woman tells her husband “sweetheart be careful, your mother is crossing the road.”

Enjoyment and social life in schools

          Students take school life as a means of enjoyment and to socialize. During our primary school days, we were so much under the direct control of our parents that we could hardly go anywhere without their knowledge, permission and consent. Even our friends were thoroughly checked by them. As a matter of fact, they monitored all our activities.

           We equally had catalogue of what to do and what not to do; and we were punished each time we kicked against their dos and don’ts. Then we were not so free, and of course we never cherished much of the restrictions imposed on us.

          When we were through with our primary school, we were considered a little but mature and also started to assert certain bit of autonomy which more often than not, resulted in clashes of interest and personality between us and our parents.

             But I will advise us not to develop certain bit of autonomy. Although we could say or people can address us as mature people while in secondary schools but it shouldn’t be mature at boys socializing with cultist or girls becoming exposed. I am saying it is not bad to socialize but we should not socialize in bad groups. But mind we have come to study. If we allow ourselves to be carried away by temporary pleasures of the present time then our fate would not be different from being useless